What is the Doing Obsession?
The doing obsession is a deeply internalized societal value that equates worthiness with productivity. From an early age, we are conditioned to believe that our value lies in our achievements. The more we do, the more we matter—or so we think.
This mindset creates a relentless cycle of over-commitment, where busyness is seen as a virtue, and rest or simply “being” is mistakenly viewed as a moral failing. Even when we achieve success, it often feels insufficient. We convince ourselves that doing just one more thing will secure our worthiness and allow us to finally relax—though that moment never seems to arrive.
Why the Doing Obsession Persists
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- Internalized Beliefs: Society rewards action and achievement with praise and recognition, reinforcing the idea that doing equals worth.
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- Distorted Attention: We focus on what aligns with our interests and beliefs, ignoring or burying anything that doesn’t fit the narrative we’ve created about success and self-worth.
- Fear of Inadequacy: Many fear that stopping or slowing down will reveal their perceived lack of value, leaving them feeling unworthy.
The Hidden Costs of Constant Busyness
The doing obsession doesn’t just consume your time; it takes a toll on your wellbeing:
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- Sleep Deprivation: A packed schedule leaves little time for rest, affecting energy, focus, and overall health.
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- High Stress Levels: Constant striving keeps the stress response activated, leading to burnout.
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- Lack of Connection: The obsession with doing often isolates us from meaningful relationships and experiences.
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- Feeling Scattered or Empty: Self-deception and the failure to deeply examine our lives can leave us feeling unfulfilled, even when outwardly successful.
Breaking Free from the Doing Obsession
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- Acknowledge Your Limits: Recognize that humans have limitations. You can’t work around the clock, and that’s okay. Accepting this truth allows you to plan realistically and prioritize effectively.
Conclusion
In a world that equates busyness with success, breaking free from the doing obsession is no easy feat. However, recognizing the hidden costs of constant striving and embracing the importance of rest and balance can lead to a more fulfilling and meaningful life. Let’s redefine success to include not only what we achieve but also how we feel and connect with others. After all, true worthiness comes from being, not just doing.
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